Yesterday I woke up at 4:14 am.
My mind was racing.
I’ve had a lot on recently, and as a result, have gotten behind on a lot.
So thoughts rushed round my head, like a pinball machine.
I tried to go back to sleep, but couldn't.
I was 100% wide awake, thinking about all the things I was neglecting:
So what did I do?
I finally got up, downloaded my thoughts onto paper (which always helps me), and texted a good friend (who luckily lives a timezone ahead!)
I told her I needed to offload.
And I shared all the things I’m focusing on that don’t matter.
And much, much more.
But I wanted to finish my text on a positive note.
To move on from these feelings, not wallow in them.
So I told my friend:
“But none of this stuff matters!
So, what does matter?”
Here's what I said:
What matters to me...
And lots of other things beside.
These things matter.
This is the important stuff.
Not Facebook messages, or emails, or people who get offended when you don’t reply to their text message the same day.
Because who will care about your to-do list when you’re gone?
Who will care that you got through all your emails, or had a 1-hour response rate to your text messages?
So my question for you today is:
What matters to you?
Get clear on it.
And then focus on these things.
Everything else is just “stuff” created by other people, that we don’t really need.
So I’m going to downgrade it.
And I suggest you do the same.
What matters to you?
Let me know in the comments, or send me an email.
Because it’s easy to get caught up in the loud, attention-seeking stuff (that generally doesn’t matter), and forget what does matter.
Hugs with loved ones. Cute puppies bouncing along the street. When it (finally) stops raining and the sun comes out. Feeling at peace because you took a day off from your to-do list. Going on a road trip with your favourite music blasting.
Love. Friendship. Kindness. Sharing. Openness.
What matters to you, really?
Focus on the good stuff, and slot the other stuff around it.
Hugs from rainy Vancouver,
PS - Also: you matter. In case you forgot :)