We’ve had snow here this week, which has been really pretty.
I went out walking with my son today, and held his hand to make sure he didn’t slip over, as it was icy in places.
And as we came to a patch of ice on the path, I deliberately walked on the safe, non-icy part.
Sounds counter-intuitive, right?
Surely I should have my son walk on the non-icy part?!
I was starting to second-guess my parenting skills, when I realized that this was exactly what I needed to do.
I needed to be on the non-icy part, so I could help my son if he slipped.
If I slipped on the ice, I could pull him and me over (and probably do more damage to him in the process).
I pondered this during our walk.
See, we’re often told about the oxygen mask analogy – put your own mask on before helping others – but it’s hardly an everyday scenario.
(I hope it’s not something you’ve had to go through, or ever will).
So think about it this way instead:
If you’re walking with a small child through a muddy field, is it better if you pull them out if they get stuck, or the other way round?
(Hoping that everyone said you should pull them out ;)
Getting to the point...
We need to put ourselves first, in order to help others.
It’s not selfish. It’s not arrogant.
If you plan to do any good in this world (and I bet you do, if you’re reading this), then you have to give yourself as much care and consideration as other people.
The whole nine yards.
You have to take care of yourself:
Showing up for other people with a tank half full is not as helpful as showing up with a full tank (figuratively speaking).
So let’s change this sh*t around. Instead of thinking that self-care and being kind to ourselves is optional, let’s upgrade it to essential.
If you help others, you need to help yourself too.
If you take time for others, you need to start making time for yourself too.
And - guess what? - if you’re kind and supportive to other people... well, I hope you know where I’m going with this... ;)
YOU are as important as the next person, and YOU need love and care like anyone else.
And with that, I wish you a very happy holiday – as happy as it can be with current goings-ons – and I’ll be back after the holidays!
Hang in there. I know things are weird, but we’ll get through this.
PS - I'm starting a new Accountability Program in January 2021... come join me, she whispered... :)