A fun exercise about the people in your life

Today's post is a prompt about the people in your life. 
 
Because the people around us can have such an influence on us!
 
I'm sure you've heard the quote about being the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. 
 
I've noticed this myself massively over the past few years.
 
As I've got myself back on track after a difficult few years, I've been really mindful about who I have in my life, and how much energy I give to people. 
 
And it’s making a real difference.
 
So today I wanted to share some questions about the people in your life.
 
Work through them and note down or think of your answers, if it feels right for you.

Ten questions about the people in your life...

1. Who would come over right now if you texted and said it was a crisis?
   
   
2. Who always leaves you smiling after you've been with them?
   
   
3. Who genuinely cares about you if things are going wrong? 
   
   
4. Who is just as excited about your successes as you are? 
   
   
5. Who can you trust with a big secret? 
   
   
6. Who reminds you of the awesome things about you?
   
   
7. Who makes you feel excited or happy when you see a text or email from them? 
   
   
8. Who can you feel sending you love? 
   
   
9. Who would genuinely be devastated if you weren't around? 
   
   
10. Who would you call in an emergency? Who would you want to call first? (They might not be the same person.)

 
Feel free to answer some of those questions, or all of them. 
 
You might only have one or a few people that come to mind for them. 
 
Or there might be a different person for each one. 
 
Either is fine! 

Next steps... 

Whoever comes to mind for the above are probably the "bestest" people in your life. 
 
So put them to the top of your list! 
 
And the people who make you feel the opposite? 
 
They can get a little downgrade ;) 
 
This doesn't mean that you have to cut them out your life or do anything drastic.
 
We don't have to take life-changing action. Just use it for awareness. 

• Move your priorities round a bit. 
  
  
• Save energy for your best people. 
  
  
• Check in with them first. 

 
In essence, put them first.
 
I'm still learning this. 
 
Sometimes I find myself messaging people or groups I don't care for as much or know that well - purely because they're "noisier" - and then I don't have time or energy for my best peeps! 
 
Which is mad, when you think about it. 
 
So now I'm trying to put more energy on the people I love and who love me even with my flaws and annoying bits. 
 
Who are the best people in your life? 
 
And how can you move them to the top of your list? 
 
(Note: family may not be relevant in this situation. Eg: you may not call your young child in an emergency - but that doesn't mean they're not important to you!) 
 
I hope 2025 has started well for you!
 
Claire  

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